On Friendship

Naipost ko itong echos na ito sa FB nung nalasheng ako months ago pero binura ko don dahil malamang, malaking kontrobersiya lang siya, as useless!

Heniwey, hindi na ito yung original note pero it goes a little something like this. CHAR!

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Naalala ko yung tweet ni Direk Joey Reyes (na hindi ko na makita) pero parang ganito yon - you don't leave a friend just because others have branded him with their opinions.

Malamang hindi sakto yan pero basta gets niyo na yon wahaha

Pero I totally agree with Direk Joey. You don't throw away precious yearzzz of friendship just because other people have issues with your friend(s). Kung wala ka namang kinalaman doon at maayos naman ang relasyon niyo ng kaibigan mo, bakit mo naman siya iiwan? Para saan pa at kaibigan ka.

Di ko ineechos ang mga ito dahil gusto kong sabihin ako ay perpektong kaibigan. For sure, marami akong mga kaibigan na na-betray in one way or another, sinasadya ko man o hindi. Tao lang eh. Hindi perpekto. Walang perpekto. Sabi nga ni Dong Abay, wala naman, wala namang perpektong tao. Ano ba ang depekto kung meron kang depekto?... Wala namang perpektong tao.

Pero, gayun pa man, you can always choose to be a/the better person/friend. How? Magandang summary ang artekel na itey kung ano ang totoong kaibigan - http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/are-you-wasting-time-with-bad-friends-here-are-5-traits-true-friends.html

So reminder to jenpot:
Listen sincerely. Be honest. Accept completely. Be dependable. Be present.

Anyway, maisama lang ang isa sa mga moral lessons mula kay Commissioner Gordon este Sirius Black

Yes FM!

Pitumpu't Pitong Puting Pating

Well, walang kinalaman ang titulo ng echusan portion na ito sa gusto kong sabihin.

ACHECHE!

Gusto ko lang isulat na palagay ko, Seven Psychopaths ay pinakaprogressive na pelikulang napanood ko in my loife. Ganda ng execution, sapat lang ang bilis ng phasing ng pelikula, ang kulit ng acting, ayos yung cast, intellectual yung mga usapan, tapos natalakay din niya halos lahat ng marginalized sectors - women, LGBT, race, etc. 

Anyway, panoorin niyo na lang pormor. Hindi siya ganun kabigat kasi nakakatawa yung execution (hindi katulad ng Bird Man na black comedy pero parang ang dark niya lang. pero maganda rin naman ang Bird Man pero dapat ibang post na yan wahaha) so henjoy siyang panoorin. Aylavet!

Ilang sa mga favorite kong lines ^_^

On women...

Hans: Marty, I've been reading your movie. Your women characters are awful. None of them have anything to say for themselves. And most of them get either shot or stabbed to death within five minutes. And the ones that don't probably will later on. 

Marty: Well, it's a hard world for women. I guess that's what I'm trying to say.

On violence:

Marty: Yeah, I'm sick of all these stereotypical Hollywood murderer scumbag type psychopath movies. I don't want it to be one more film about guys with guns in their hands. I want it... overall... to be about love... and peace. But it still has to be about these seven psychopaths, so this Buddhist psychopath, he... he doesn't believe in violence. I don't know what the fuck he's going to do in the movie.

LGBT and dreaming :)

Hans: So you know, your Vietcong psycho story becomes the final thoughts of a man who chose not the darkness, but the light. The light being, you know, suicide by self-immolation. But I think that's the best we're gonna get. And, you know...

...Not just fags. Oh, by the way, I don't think they like being called "fags" anymore. I think nowadays they prefer homos. 

On God... 

Myra: God loves us. I know He does. He's just got a funny way of showing it sometimes. Sometimes I think God's gone crazy sometimes. Stuff He does, stuff He don't do.

Hans: Well, He's had a lot to contend with in his time, too, you know. Bastards killed His kid, too.

Ted

hindi yung teddy bear na patawa

Ang ganda pala ng Ted Talks. Sobrang ganda at enlightening ng mga insights at ang lawak ng range ng mga paksa sa mga sessions nila. May light lang, may tungkol sa mga relasyon, pagsugpo sa kahirapan, pulitika, arkitektura, sikolohiya, at kung anek-anek.

Pordat, I think this year ay mas nawili ako sa Ted Talks kay sa mga libro. Pero syempre, gusto ko pa ring magbasa ng mga libro. Doon ko pala unang nagustuhan si Malcolm Gladwell.

So dahil idol ko si Gladwell, baka one day ay makapagsalita rin ako sa Ted Talks.

*nangarap na naman ng gising*

Kill Bill

Matagal nang nakapark ang topic na ito sa aking utak so heto na, heto na at isusulat ko na. Choz!

Lately ko lang napagtanto na hindi ko pa pala napanood yung Kill Bill 2. Akala ko napanood ko na parehas.

So napanood ko na rin siya finally (#memoriesinbukitpanjang) habang nagplaplantsa at nalerkey ako na simple lang pala lahat ng ugat ng yishun ni Bill. Najontis si ate black mamba na ex-jowa ni Bill at lumayo bigla ng walang sabi-sabi. Well, nakakabuset naman talaga yon. Ni-Ha/Ni-Ho waley. Nakakapraning kaya yung ganyan dahil di mo alam kung buhay pa o dedz na yung mahal mo sa buhay. Tapos nalaman niya na lang na jontis at magpapakasal na sa isang hindi kilalang kulafu. So how?

So anyare ay sa salita nga ni Bill nung magkausap sila finally ay "I overreacted". Eh big time assassin lang naman siya. what do we expeeeect??? sweet happy ending???

syempre hindi divams?

Pero sabi nga ni Bill nung huling pag-uusap nila ni Black Mamba:

The Bride: [Describing her pregnancy to Bill] Before that strip turned blue, I was a woman. I was your woman. I was a killer who killed for you. Before that strip turned blue, I would have jumped a motorcycle onto a speeding train... for you. But once that strip turned blue, I could no longer do any of those things. Not anymore. Because I was going to be a mother. Can you understand that?
Bill: Yes. But why didn't you tell me then instead of now?
The Bride: Because once I would have told you, you'd claim her, and I didn't want that.
Bill: Not your decision to make.
The Bride: Yes, but it was the right decision and I made it for my daughter. She deserved to be born with a clean slate. But with you, she would have been born in a world she shouldn't have. I had to choose... I chose her.

To some extent, feeling ko may point naman si Bill eh. Bakit hindi na lang sinabi ni 'teh. Eh di sana, wala ng na-massacre na napakaraming tao, inosente man o hindi. Literal na blood bath, mas madugo sa kahit ano pang war sa Game of Thrones.

Baka naman nagconclude agad si 'teh na magiging masamang tatay si Bill.

Pero who am I to judge? YESSSS hahaha! Eh hindi ko naman nga kilala rin si Bill. Helleeer?

Eh ang akin kasi, feeling ko, lahat ng bagay ay madadaan sa maboteng usapan. Parang yung sa How to Train A Dragon 2 movie. Gusto ko kasi parati ng peace. Pag-usapan ang issue. Magresolve.

Ayoko ng issues. Pero nakatira ako ngayon sa Yishun.

Charot.

So anyway, nung nagmumuni-muni ako tungkol dyan, napagtanto ko rin na hindi basta-basta usap lang ang makakasolve ng mga bagay eh. Kailangan din yung mga mag-uusap ay mayroon isang objective - to agree to disagree. Para maresolve na ng 100% ang mga bagay-bagay. At matapos na ang dapat matapos.

Pero mangyayare lang din yan kase kung lahat ng parties involved ay magpapaka-honest sa totoo nilang nararamdaman at iniisip. Kung hindi talaga ok, sabihing hindi ok para makapagsorry ang dapat magsorry kung mali talaga or maclarify ang bagay na akala niyong mali pero ok naman pala. At kung ok na, dapat ok na talaga. Hindi yung pagkatapos ng usap eh ang dami palang opinyon. Lekat.

May forever kahit issues hahaha!

Anyway, naalala ko lang din yung sa Forgiveness Seminar ni Dr. Enright. Sabi nga, sa pagpapatawad mo, hindi mo naman kailangang i-inform yung taong nagkasala, at least sa paningin mo, na napatawad mo na sila. At sa pagpapatawad, hindi necessary ang reconciliation. Bonus na lang yan kung baga. Pero importante ang pagpapatawad. Nakakapagpalaya siya ng utak at puso.

Pordat, naniniwala na ko na there are things better left unsaid. In time, maghihilom din ang mga sugat, kahit pa gaano ito kalalim basta marunong tayong magpatawad.

*bow*